Baby Shower Blues

I’m feeling nervous about my baby shower.

I’m throwing it earlier than as is “traditional”, as I was reminded of immediately after receiving a complaint from one of the future grandparents about the date I chose and how they would be out of town. Not to mention, this was much too early of a date.

I was crushed.

I’m doing this by myself. I’ll be planning and setting up every increment of my own baby shower myself, without help from any family members or friends.

I entrusted a friend of 10+ years with taking care of all the details of the shower. She volunteered and told me she didn’t want me worrying about anything. She set up an event for it on Facebook. I filled in the details on the whole page. I sent out a message to all the invited guests, asking them to send their mailing information to her for the invitations. I checked with her three weeks later, she’d collected about four or five. My own boyfriend had sent her more than that himself that he’d gathered from friends and family.

Then I finally buy the invitations. I sent out another request to the guests in the Facebook event, asking them to send ME their mailing information as my planner had fallen through and I would be doing it myself. I waited two weeks and sent out multiple requests to everyone, on mine and my boyfriend’s personal pages as well. Finally, I sat down to write out these invitations, all forty of them and their envelopes, myself. I plan to mail them out the next morning, first thing.

Immediately, I’m being asked if I sent invitations to so-and-so and so-and-so. Well, did they send me their mailing information, like I asked them directly to? Of course not, but that’s on me in their minds. How could I have overlooked them while waiting for a response if they were interested for months? When did baby showers become about the guests being an inconvenience over it being about the mother and baby?

I always thought that when I had my children, they would be part of a larger family that was interested in them and wanted to be around. What I’m finding instead is more and more reasons to move away.

 

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